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How to Help the Elderly Cope with Pet Loss
Losing a pet is emotionally taxing for most, but it can be particularly hard on the elderly. After retirement, it’s quite common for seniors to lose their sense of purpose and belonging. Social interaction can diminish and depression may result. Pets often play a key role for seniors by making them feel needed and providing them with unconditional love and companionship. To understand the magnitude of the loss, it’s important to recognize what a pet can bring to a senior’s life:
- A sense of usefulness and productivity
- Motivation for self-care out of obligation to look after a pet
- Closeness and physical affection
- Companionship, someone to talk to
- Regular amusement and a respite from boredom
- Unconditional love
When an elderly person loses a pet, all of the above are in jeopardy as well. In many cases, the relationship with the pet was the strongest and most consistent in the person’s life. The loss can be a major disruption to their daily routine, making it difficult for them to find a reason to stay active. In the worst cases, it can even result in the loss of the will to live.Seniors grieving the loss of a pet need support and understanding. If you know an elderly person who has recently lost a pet, here are some guidelines to help them cope with their grief:Be PatientSeniors are less likely to be as open with their feelings as younger generations. They may not be as demonstrative with their grief, but it doesn’t mean they aren’t in mourning.Be Sensitive to FinancesMany seniors live on a fixed income and need to be mindful of every dollar they spend. They may have been forced to make life and death decisions based on finances. Try to be understanding and supportive.Be A Good ListenerA senior who’s recently lost a pet will need someone they can speak with openly. They may have relied on their deceased pet for interaction and its important they feel open to express their feelings.Be Mindful of Their RoutineMake sure they are taking care of themselves and making an effort to stay active. Try to ensure they are eating regularly and keeping up with any medications. Encourage them to engage in community activities.For older adults, coping with the loss of a pet can be overwhelming. Helping a senior regain their appreciation for life after such a loss is a worthwhile cause. By simply being available and mindful of their feelings, you can have a profound impact on their recovery from the loss.
Should I Get a New Pet Right After Losing One?
When a person experiences the loss of a pet, a void is left. Many people look to fill this void by bringing a new pet into the home. There are many wonderful reasons to do so, but it’s important to make sure that you are ready to give a new animal the love and devotion he or she deserves.Giving yourself and your family time to adequately grieve the loss of deceased pet is generally advisable. Failing to do so can often lead to misplaced resentment towards a new pet. It’s quite common for children to feel disloyal towards an old pet when a new pet is brought into the home too quickly.When you do decide that you and your family are ready, it’s best to avoid a pet that looks too similar to your lost friend. Allow your new friend to develop his/her own personality and avoid comparisons. Your new friend is unique and special and deserves his/her own special bond when you feel you are ready to make that commitment.Ultimately, only you can decide the right time to invite a new pet into your family. There are a whole host of variables to consider when making this decision. At Gentle Journey, we have extensive experience counseling grieving pet owners and are happy to provide support and answer your questions. Give us a call at (602) 332-7757 or visit us online to learn more:
